No, you should work it with your fingers first. Or your tongue. It depends on who you’re with. You should also use a lubricant, too…

[ He answers like a wizened old professor imparting essential knowledge to the younger generation, as if he isn’t only twenty three himself. A year in the sex resort is akin to ten years living off the regular land, in some ways. You certainly end up learning way more about sex. ]

You’ll learn. There are plenty of books here, too, since you seem to like to read. It’s for the best if you play the game—it won’t end well if you don’t.