[Maybe more than his issues understanding the difference between sex and intimacy his issue is separating lust from something deeper. There's certainly an attraction there, the man is gorgeous, but the ways in which that makes Rude want to be closer to him are not strictly sexual. That could be his problem.

It'll take him some time to actively diagnose what he'll need to work on here, but he plans to do it without getting hurt if he can manage.]

Then I won't trust you, but I'll remember what you've said today and think about how other people might see things. [He rests his hands under Aventurine's thighs to slide under his ass, squeezing idly as he processes everything, eventually standing up, but still leaning into him.] I'll try to be professional about it. No promises though.